This is a long time coming, we originally looked into Infant Adoption some 4-5 years ago, however in the middle of the first Education Group we left. I just couldn’t get my head around not ever having ‘our own child’, I also couldn’t get my head around Open Adoption and visitation with the ‘birth’ parent.
Oh how things have changed in my mind.
I am now ok with the fact that visitations will be ok, it was originally a game of favouritism, would the child love the ‘birth’ parent more. Of course that is now the stupidest thing I could have thought since the child may only see the ‘birth’ parent once a year for a few hours, how could all the work I have done with our child be undone in a few hours. Of course this is stupid but I did have to come to terms with it in my own way. As for never having our own biological child, well the proof is in the pudding as they say and obviously it didn’t/won’t happen. So why am I letting these years go when we could be enjoying some much needed baby joy in our house. Not to say that we need it but it would be nice to complete our family with a child to call our own.
We have been trying to have our own biological child for many years, actually about 18 years to no avail, this has been through many natural and medically treated cycles so its now time to bite the bullet and forge ahead.
So this is the start of a new tomorrow. We can’t wait to go through the ups and downs to welcome a baby into our hearts and home.
July 7, 2008 at 4:57 pm
Best wishes in your adoption journey. The wait can be long and frustrating, but in the end, will be so totally worth it when you see your sweet baby for the first time.
And just a note, as I’m sure you already know, but not all birthmothers wish to maintain a relationship with the child. My son’s birthmother simply requested that if we send a picture to the social worker at the adoption agency, to please send an extra one so that it could be forwarded to her. We do this and I also include a little update on our sweet boy.